Love - How do you react when you hear that word? I think the word Love is the most sensitive word. People long to hear the words, "I love you," from other human beings. Love is the one thing that everyone - even the ones who refuse to admit it - long for. Everyone wants to find someone who knows every bad and good thing about them, but still loves them no matter what. We live in a broken world full of broken people. People are scared to love or to be loved, but they still long to find true love. So how do you find true love? How do you know true love when you find it? Here are my three pillars to loving perfectly.
First of all, it starts with you. There is absolutely no way you can give to other people what you don’t have. That will leave you empty every time. You first must have money, before you can buy that beautiful dress that you want. Same way you can’t expect others to love you, if you don’t even love yourself the way you want them to love you. Love yourself first. Learn to respect yourself, to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you, and to value yourself and your time. Know yourself and your self-worth. Make sure you have something of value to give to the world. You have to have more than just looks. Own your boundaries, and have enough confidence to spot people who are not worthy of your time. Many experience heartbreaks because they give their all to people, expecting them to give back the love that they don’t even have for themselves. Don’t be desperate for love. Love yourself and be yourself - you will attract love.
Secondly, many are so focused on finding love that they forget to give love. True love is selfless. That means you always think of other people in the act of loving - not yourself. We live in a world where every man is for himself. How do you expect to see love if all you think about is yourself? Be genuine in all that you do. Lend a helping hand wherever there is need, without expecting anything in return. It’s easy to spot those who are being fake with you if you do everything with an honest heart. You miss all the red flags if you help others with a hidden agenda. You will be greatly disappointed in life if you’re always helping others in hopes that they’ll do the same. Help and move on without expecting anything in return. The true people will stay and be there for you.
Lastly, remember to treat others the way that you’d want to be treated. Be kind and polite to people. You interact with people everyday and everywhere you go. You never know who you’re interacting with, or who’s secretly watching you. Always seek to make peace with others, instead of creating chaos. People will be naturally attracted to you, and you will see doors open.
Again love yourself first, be genuine in all that you do , and treat others the way that you want to be treated. Those things will help you attract love, and save you from heartbreaks. Do all your friends turn out to be fake friends? Do you feel like your significant other doesn’t give you the love that you deserve? Does it seem that people are always using you? Do you often feel rejection? Check how you are treating yourself, and how you are treating those around you.
Happy Valentines Day!